Little things matter

Touch It's one of the most powerful suggestions you can make. Many cultures and people in general are much more motivated when touched. A simple gentle touch.

Ever tell someone something and they look at you in disbelief? Sure you have. Try this, as you tell that same person something gently touch their shoulder or arm. They will then believe you. Try it.

Touching in a high tech world is loosing favor with many people. We seem to interact more with inanimate objects than people. Hence, the feeling of awkwardness when we communicate one-on-one.

One of my passions is public speaking. I like to roam the audience and "interact with them." Each time I gently touch the shoulder of someone seated, it's like the whole crowd of people can feel the intimacy and depth of the subject. If I'm speaking of something fun at the moment, they will actually laugh harder and longer if I personalize it.

Often times getting in "touch" with your audience is just that.

Reach out and touch someone today.

Why did you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle?

It's really easy to ruin a marriage. All you have to do is focus on something that makes absolutely no difference to anyone. Something that in the great grand scheme of things will never really matter to anyone, except your significant other.

When people focus so closely on the little things, they're not in touch with the big things. Today is Valentines day and I'm reflecting what it has taken to put two long marriages together. The first was for 26 years, the third has been for 12 years. We won't talk about the 4 months from hell.

Here's the lesson or at least my view. If you want to get OUT of a relationship, be critical of something like which end of the toothpaste does one squeeze from and when. Oh yeah, that will do it. Before long, your obnoxious behavior will drive someone, nearly anyone, NUTS.

War, peace, poverty, AIDS, homelessness, Veterans' issues and even a bad hair day are way more important than those little obnoxious things people can allow themselves to focus on. If this is what you worry about. Get a life!